According to Oxford dictionary, curiosity means 'a strong desire to know about something'.
Children starting at the age of three years old start getting very curious about anything that relates to their lives. They start using the word 'why' in their questions. And we as parents will always try to find ways in giving the right and precise answers for them, or we might just simply say "let's look up on the matters together".
On the contrary, what are the things that we as parents are curious about? For sure we are not that curious about our life and what is expected of us. Right?
As for me, I'm more curious about my children. I'm curious about their thinking, feelings, passions, potentials and lots of other things. I'm curious on how my children behave in school, how they communicate with their friends and how will they face the challenging world out there. And most of all, I'm curious of their expectations towards us, as their parents.
So, for now... I'm starting to use the word 'why' in responding to any of my children questions. That's one of the ways for me to know my children better and leaving me curious free on the certain matter.
4 Me Myself Only
Sharing my opinion on life learning experience
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Friday, December 17, 2010
Fear of Making Mistakes
Most of us do believe and accept the fact that “People learn through mistakes”. But what the most of us do not realize is that we are fear of making mistakes.
While you are at a restaurant that you have not been before and browsing through the menu, you are not sure of what to order. It’s simply because you have the fear that the food you order will not meet your taste buds.
Some people are reluctant to speak English is simply because they are fear of making mistakes.
As an educator, you have the fear of not being able to give the right answers to the questions by your students. You have the fear of not producing good results as expected by your superior. You have the fear of not being respected by your students and being understood by your superior of your current conditions.
As a student, you have the fear of not being able to understand in class. You have the fear of not being able to give the right answer to the questions. You have the fear of not getting good grades in your studies. You have the fear of not being able to meet your parents’ expectation in your studies. You have the fear of not being accepted by your friends.
As a sub-ordinate, you have the fear of not meeting your superior expectations in completing your task right.
As a superior, you have the fear of your sub-ordinates not meeting your expectations in getting assigned task right.
The list of fear could go on and on. In a nutshell, we have the fear of not having the total control of our life.
When we are afraid of our fears, one way to get out from that feeling is by making excuses when we fail at something that we have done. By making excuses, we feel good of ourselves by making other people feeling bad. By making excuses, we are actually not being truthful to ourselves. When will this culture ends?
So, do we allow our students to make mistakes? Do we allow our sub ordinates to make mistakes? Do we allow ourselves to make mistakes? If not, how would they learn? How would we learn?
Learning is through experience. Experience is the best teacher one could ever have. So, I think it’s ok to make mistakes. It’s ok having and giving some space in our life to make mistakes. But, it’s NOT ok to make the same mistakes twice.
Thursday, December 16, 2010
Me, Myself & I
Me. Who am I? What am I? What am I doing? When I am here? Why am I here? How do I even get here? Those are very tough questions. How am I to get all the answers? How am I to get all the answers right? Do right answers matter? Who is to judge me with all my answers to those questions?
I’m a daughter or a son to my parents. I’m a mother or a father to my kids. I’m an employee to my employer. I’m a teacher to my students. I’m a student to my teacher.
Am I happy of whom I am? Am I happy of what I am? Am I happy of where I am? Am I happy of why I am happy? Who is to tell me whether I am happy or not? Who is to judge my feelings? Guess what? IT’S ME!
It’s all about me! If I’m not happy of who I am… if I’m not happy of what I am… if I’m not happy of where I am… It’s me that makes the feeling unhappy. What am I to do about it? Who is at fault? Who is to be blamed? Anyone or anybody wish to volunteer to be blamed by me? NO ONE! Then, I am to be blamed for myself.
I have to change. I have to see my potentials. I have to change all the sad stories to happy stories. Quest stories. I want to make my own stories to tell. I want to tell my happy ending stories. I want to make the change. I want to change. I want to change my perceptions. I want to change my attitudes. I want to do the right thing… for ME.
I’m a daughter or a son to my parents. I’m a mother or a father to my kids. I’m an employee to my employer. I’m a teacher to my students. I’m a student to my teacher.
Am I happy of whom I am? Am I happy of what I am? Am I happy of where I am? Am I happy of why I am happy? Who is to tell me whether I am happy or not? Who is to judge my feelings? Guess what? IT’S ME!
It’s all about me! If I’m not happy of who I am… if I’m not happy of what I am… if I’m not happy of where I am… It’s me that makes the feeling unhappy. What am I to do about it? Who is at fault? Who is to be blamed? Anyone or anybody wish to volunteer to be blamed by me? NO ONE! Then, I am to be blamed for myself.
I have to change. I have to see my potentials. I have to change all the sad stories to happy stories. Quest stories. I want to make my own stories to tell. I want to tell my happy ending stories. I want to make the change. I want to change. I want to change my perceptions. I want to change my attitudes. I want to do the right thing… for ME.
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